Treatment of perfectionism at Charlottenlund Private Hospital

What is perfectionism?

Perfectionism is a psychological pattern characterised by unusually high demands on yourself and a strong fear of making mistakes. It is not simply a personality trait, but rather something that can become burdensome and may benefit from treatment. Perfectionism can take the form of a healthy drive for high quality, where you are able to enjoy your achievements and accept mistakes. However, it can also become distressing, where nothing ever feels good enough and self-criticism is constantly present in the background. This form of perfectionism often requires professional support.

Healthy striving vs. distressing perfectionism

Healthy striving for high quality is characterised by realistic goals and the ability to take satisfaction in your achievements. Distressing perfectionism, on the other hand, involves unrealistic expectations, fear of failure and constant self-criticism. It is important to distinguish between these two forms in order to understand when perfectionism becomes problematic.

What perfectionism can feel like

Perfectionism presents differently from person to person, but there are some common patterns that many people recognise. These include feeling that nothing is ever good enough, fear of making mistakes, strong self-criticism and difficulty delegating tasks. Many perfectionists also experience exhaustion and find it difficult to relax because their sense of self-worth feels dependent on their performance. If you recognise several of these patterns, it may be time to seek help.

Typical patterns in perfectionism

Patterns such as strong self-criticism, fear of making mistakes and difficulty accepting compliments are often characteristic of perfectionism. These patterns can contribute to stress, anxiety and low self-esteem, making it important to take them seriously.

Why is perfectionism a problem?

Perfectionism can contribute to significant mental and physical difficulties, including stress, anxiety, depression and burnout. Although perfectionists are often rewarded for their high standards, it can be difficult to let go of perfectionism because it may feel necessary. Research shows that distressing perfectionism is an important risk factor for several mental health conditions, and treatment can help reduce these risks.

The most common consequences

Perfectionism is often a driving factor behind stress, anxiety, depression and sleep problems. It can also lead to difficulties in relationships and exhaustion. By treating perfectionism, several of these problems may improve at the same time.

Why does perfectionism develop?

Perfectionism rarely has one single cause. It often develops over the course of life and may be influenced by upbringing, social expectations or individual temperament. Early experiences of criticism or bullying, as well as growing up in an environment where approval depends on achievement, may contribute. Understanding these factors can be important when working with perfectionism in treatment.

Upbringing and environment



Growing up with high expectations from parents or teachers may contribute to the development of perfectionism. If recognition is only given when you succeed, it can lead to a belief that achievement is the only way to feel valued.